Friday, 21 February 2014

Positive Affirmations and Emotions

A positive affirmation is a statement that gives someone strength, peace, comfort, or a sense of control and power. Simply put, they are things we can say to ourselves to makes us feel good, or help us in times of trouble. I'm not suggesting that you say these out loud to yourself, although you can. But usually what I do is repeat some of these in my head when I feel overwhelmed. I've listed some of my favourite or most-used ones. You may have your own - use those as well! The point of these affirmations is to help us feel strong in times of weakness or despair. They truly help, but it ttakes practice. Sometimes, you might not even have the ability to believe what you are saying. But at other times, you can really think about what the affirmation says, and it can help a lot. They can also help you focus on what is happening, why, and what you can do about it.

1) When you feel angry
-anger is a normal human emtion
-I am angry and that is okay. But why am I angry? Should I be angry? What happened?
-am I angry with myself, with someone else, or because of something that happened?
-is there a solution to this problem?
-have I hurt someone because of my anger? Can I do something to fix this?
-how can I calm myself down? Take a walk, drink something, take deep breathes, etc...?

2) When you are sad
-why am I sad? Did something hurt me physically or emotionally?
-do I feel hopeless?
-can I find ANYTHING good in the situation?
-is there someone I can talk to? Do I feel misunderstood?
-am I lonely? Do I just want someone to be there for me, or to tell me that everything will be okay?
-I might feel sad now, but things do get better. They always do. It might not be easy, but I need to look for a solution. What can I do about this?
-Are there any positive things about this situation? Did I learn something new?

3) When you are stressed
-what is happening? Why does this make me feel stressed?
-how do I know that I am stressed? Do I feel hot, tense, sweaty, etc.? Is my heart beating fast? Do I feel dizzy or want to throw up?
-Is there anything I can do to take some stress away? Can I use any relaxation techniques?
-I feel stressed and that is okay. We all get overwhelmed. But the longer I feel stressed, the harder it will become. I need to think of ways to help myself, or to make the situation better.
-Life is hectic, and we all get frustrated. I am not different. But I also know that I can handle tough situations.
-Try to remember a difficult time before and how you handled it. Can you do the same thing now?

And there are other emotions as well, but I am sure you get the general idea. Reorient yourself and try to take control over how you feel. Remind yourself that emotions are normal and human, but you should also try to think of ways to make yourself better. Find ways to express your emotions, though - this is very important. Sometimes, we do not always want solutions. Expressing our feelings is all we need. That is okay, because solutions can come later. Find ways to help yourself, or seek others to help you. Emotions become easier to handle and experience when you acknowledge your right to emotions, and you also feel better knowing that you CAN overcome this situation.

49 comments:

  1. WOW.
    This is great.

    Sandra D

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  2. Thinking positive makes me happy and relaxing.

    Juliana

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  3. Of course I speak to myself and perk myself up.I tell myself "go break a leg,keep going ,no matter what others say,do not bother with any one negative etc"
    I say this to myself and it works to keep me positive and focussed and on track.

    Jack

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  4. You know Marina ,I had anger mnagement problem when I was alcoholic.
    On of the skills I learnt to calm my anger and control my emotions is to remeber all the positive words that others taught me and to repeat them to my slef loudly and this still working for me .
    So you are absolutely right I now counsell myself,teach myself new skills I learn from your positive helpful and eduactional blog.

    Carlos

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  5. Practice ,practice and practice .
    As you know I am Arabic and the general theme in our community is anger,loud voice and even fighting .
    When I came to Canada ,I was daignosed with anxiety and anger problem and sent for therapy to teach me relaxation.
    I was stubborn and I did not beleive that this going to work ,however all therapist were patient with me and taught me how to be patient and practice ,practice till really I using now relaxation techniques to calm my stress and it does work.
    I will also start to repeat loudly or in my mind assertive and supportive and encouraging words

    Hamza

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  6. I am also Arabic and not looking for BF but looking for marraige and because no one propsoing to me,occasionally I feel may be I am not pretty.
    I will use those tips and I will keep telling myself so that I hope this may make feel I am pretty even if it means stay single for evre.
    Thanks for this tips
    I badly needed this post


    Hend

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  7. What a colorful post

    Helga

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  8. Thank you
    That exactly what I need to do
    Thank you again

    Anastashia

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  9. i WILL WRITE THOSE DOWN AND MEMORIZE THEM AND REEPAT THEM FREQUENTLY.i STARTED TO FEEL BETTER ALREADY.
    i TOLD YOU YOU ARE A gem

    LILLIAN

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  10. I learned lots from your blog especilly this one
    Thanks

    Nilofar

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  11. Yes Marina
    To be positive ,make you happy and productive

    Yara

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  12. I am making positive cards and I will keep them on me and read them when I need to remind myself.
    Thanks Marina

    Ivanka

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  13. The negativity hurt its owner, positivity promotes health and happiness and productivity

    Solomon

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  14. Positive thoughts create positive happy feeling, regulate emotions and moderate behaviours, prolong life and prevent diseases ,not to mention productivity and success

    Maritza

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  15. Let's all be positive

    Suhana

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  16. I will not mention my name but I tell you I lost a good job because of my anger.
    First my boss sent me to anger management program that was teaching communication,attitude ,respect and professionalism .I failed to develop the skills that could help me calm my anger or even prevent and so I was let go.
    I went again to anger management program and I paid my self and here I am dealing with my emotions in a very healthy way.
    I trust this post is an eye opener to many who need help regulate their emotions.
    I learnt nothing wrong to express my feelings and emotions but in a calm professional way .

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  17. I pray for all those who are chronically sad and only see the empty half of things.
    I pray God may open their eyes so that they can see the many positives around them. and they can lit a candle instead of cursing the darkness.
    The Holy BIBLE and your blog can turn the negative readers to positive ones.
    May God bless you Marina and bless your blog.

    Sunday Priest

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  18. Marina your writing exactly describing me when I was ill and after recovery.
    I was emotionally negative as far as I remember till my recovery.
    Recovery taught me many skills that helped me change my outlook of my world and helped me to love myself and my world and to continue my school and hope for a reasonable future .
    Excellent blog that may wake up many of us to understand their emotions.

    Anne

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  19. During my journey of recovery I learnt that all emotions are o k and We do need to express them and We do need to speak up, vent and express it.
    ED compelled us to hide and be silent but freedom shed the light on the REAL ME.
    I am free, I will express my feeling and I will behave in a positive way.
    This post endorse what I learnt
    Thanks Marina
    You helped me recover and you now maintain my recovery and the skills I learnt

    Nanaraj

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  20. Yes I read an article how self talk can increase self confidence and prevent explosive anger and mitigate unpleasant feelings.

    Rodica

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  21. Your advise and recommendations very much appreciated

    Dorota

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  22. Very informative post

    Morandan

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  23. Marina
    I tell you this idea does work.
    We know that when you repeat something in your head, you will believe in it.
    Women who were verbally and emotionally abused sometimes they believe the words their abuser tell them .
    So We really need to repeat in our heads all the positives and soon the dreams become real.
    I make cards for my clients and give them plenty and ask them to read them often.
    You are really a counsellor and a therapist Marina .

    Kelly W
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  24. I was also told to talk to positive people and look at smiling faces and listen to light music and watch funny shows and programs and listen to funny jokes and maintain sense of humors .

    Sebastian

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  25. Marina as you remember I do diabetes teaching as part of my job is CDE and I do motivational interview to motivate clients to make the positive life style changes .
    I encourage them to self talk loudly as it works .
    I ask them to say loudly I can do this and I am good at this and I am healthy and strong etc.
    I did read this post 3 times as I like it.

    CJ

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  26. I love the positive and you are positive and I love you.
    I stopped counting the benefits of complete recovery as they are innumerable.


    Mary
    Mississauga

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  27. I have been for years since I became Christian teaching all my family and friends to worry less, pray more, repeat the positive verses and feel happy.
    I say to them even if you do not want laugh, fake it till you make.
    Laughter is contagious.
    Live life to the fullest.

    I wish I have a daughter or a grand daughter like you Marina

    Sam Ibrahim
    Burnhamthorpe ,Mississauga

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  28. Wonderful pictures and more detail if you follow.

    Savana

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  29. Really really lovely picture and inforamtive post.

    Carlos

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  30. I am pleased with your suggestions and happy with all your blog.


    Mehta

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  31. Yes you are postive ,sharp and affirmative
    way to go

    Raja

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  32. I did use self talk to calm my anxiety and anger and it worked.
    Marina you are a pioneer.

    Gangji

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  33. Hey Marina
    Good job

    Cindrella

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  34. Your experience and education making you an expert in mental health counselling.

    Lenus

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  35. If any one wants learn to be positive and affirmative, I would invite him or her to your blog.

    Saroosh

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  36. Amazing post and excellent tips how to handel sadness and anger

    Ivanka

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  37. I like all your suggestions and the pictures amazing

    Piatro

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  38. Very important message


    Jenn
    Welland

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  39. I liked the smiling faces as well as the tips


    Sorina

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  40. Negative is an enemy to human .
    Let laugh and be positive


    Oswaldo

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  41. Hurray Marina
    Good work

    Anooma

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  42. Keep up hope Ms. Hope .

    Cindrella

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  43. Over the long years that I struggled, I could not regulate my emotions at all and I had been very angry for no or trivial reasons.
    However also over the years I learnt that I have all rights to feel angry and to better for me to express my feelings ,emotions and anger.
    I learnt if I do not hold any feelings inside ,it would not accumulate and would not get bigger to the point of burst.
    I learnt how to express my anger and regulate my emotion.

    Your post is helpful to endorse lessons I learnt.

    Recovered ED survivor

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  44. Even though I go to church and I pray but I do have moments when I feel sad or angry. I do have verses from The Holy Bible written on small cards I keep them and I read them frequently when I do not feel well.
    I feel better reading them .Not a sin or wrong to feel sad or angry as long as you do not take the anger on strangers.
    I do get angry at my mom and she comfort me showing the care and love of God

    Shady
    Mississauga

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  45. I admire you and I appreciate all tips and comments written here
    Many blogs there you may read some stuff and some silly comments but not in here.
    Your tips are well searched and helpful

    Penny

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  46. We will keep positive despite the challenges .

    Pyuish

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  47. Yes if I can not find a way to self help, I would seek help from others .

    Hend

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  48. You are writing from experience ,knowledge and skills and so you are credible and people like your blog


    Jeff

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  49. Thanks to you all! I love that this blog is a safe and great place for all of us! Love to each of you and God bless!

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