1) When you feel angry
-anger is a normal human emtion
-I am angry and that is okay. But why am I angry? Should I be angry? What happened?
-am I angry with myself, with someone else, or because of something that happened?
-is there a solution to this problem?
-have I hurt someone because of my anger? Can I do something to fix this?
-how can I calm myself down? Take a walk, drink something, take deep breathes, etc...?
2) When you are sad
-why am I sad? Did something hurt me physically or emotionally?
-do I feel hopeless?
-can I find ANYTHING good in the situation?
-is there someone I can talk to? Do I feel misunderstood?
-am I lonely? Do I just want someone to be there for me, or to tell me that everything will be okay?
-I might feel sad now, but things do get better. They always do. It might not be easy, but I need to look for a solution. What can I do about this?
3) When you are stressed
-what is happening? Why does this make me feel stressed?
-how do I know that I am stressed? Do I feel hot, tense, sweaty, etc.? Is my heart beating fast? Do I feel dizzy or want to throw up?
-Is there anything I can do to take some stress away? Can I use any relaxation techniques?
-I feel stressed and that is okay. We all get overwhelmed. But the longer I feel stressed, the harder it will become. I need to think of ways to help myself, or to make the situation better.
-Life is hectic, and we all get frustrated. I am not different. But I also know that I can handle tough situations.
-Try to remember a difficult time before and how you handled it. Can you do the same thing now?
And there are other emotions as well, but I am sure you get the general idea. Reorient yourself and try to take control over how you feel. Remind yourself that emotions are normal and human, but you should also try to think of ways to make yourself better. Find ways to express your emotions, though - this is very important. Sometimes, we do not always want solutions. Expressing our feelings is all we need. That is okay, because solutions can come later. Find ways to help yourself, or seek others to help you. Emotions become easier to handle and experience when you acknowledge your right to emotions, and you also feel better knowing that you CAN overcome this situation.