Unfortunately, there are still many people in our society that don't understand how serious and deadly eating disorders are. Very recently, this article appeared on the internet:
As a quick summary, the male author of this article claims that males should try to date a girl with an eating disorder (ED) because of the many 'advantages' this has for him. He gives five reasons for this: the girl wont be eating, so the man doesn't have to pay for her food. She is also probably rich since most girls who have ED are rich; thus, the man can get money off the girl. The author also mentions that Oh, and she will be skinny, so you don't need to worry about being teased in public for being in a relationship with a 'fat girl'. Plus, she is insecure about her body, so she will always come to you looking for appreciation about her body...and if you give her a few compliments, she will agree to have sex with you.
DOES ANYONE ELSE SEE A HUGE PROBLEM HERE? I couldn't believe that someone had the audacity to write this article, and that it actually got posted n the internet. This is disgusting, horrible, untrue, and foolish. Firstly, if this man knew anything, he would know that ED is a mental illness and that his article is neither funny nor true. Secondly, is using someone's sickness to your advantage a wise and fair thing to do? If the female is ill with ED, is using this to have sex with her being loyal and honest? Is that all relationships are about - sex and money? The victim with an ED needs help, support, and love - not a foolish and egotistic man to use her as an object. And what about all the myths and wrong words in this article? Are ALL people with ED rich? No. Are they all thin? No. Do they all have such low confidence in themselves that they would easily sleep with any man who told them that they were not fat? No.
What does this article say about ED? That it is not a serious illness. That ED is, ultimately, a choice that females make because they want attention and simply want a man in their lives. That someone with ED does not need treatment - that all she needs is to hear that she is not fat, and then all will be well. This article belittles that ED can kill any of his victims. The author makes ED seem like a glamorous choice that victims choose, and that using this to have sex with a girl is a perfectly normal and acceptable thing to do. This man is forgetting that ED is the number one killer among all mental illnesses; he is disregarding the fact that people with ED are in need of loving and genuine people in their lives. In effect, he is saying that all males should try to date a girl with ED because she is cheaper to please, easy to persuade into having sex, and likely rich at the same time.
Perhaps this author may say that his article was meant to be funny and that he meant no harm. But is this a joking matter? No. Would it be funny if I wrote an article about why you should date someone with cancer because chemotherapy would make them lose hair, so they would spend less on hairdressers? No. Would it be funny if I wrote about how you should date someone with depression because the person would be so sad all the time that you could easily convince them to sleep with you? No. Would it be entertaining if I wrote about how you should date someone who is blind because then they can't see what you are actually doing? No.
So, why are EDs any different? Maybe its because some people still don't understand that they are serious illnesses. Maybe its because this man is simply looking for attention and thought that this was funny. Or maybe its for both reasons, and even more. But whatever the case is, this article is unacceptable. It not only hurts those who are ill with ED, but also those who recovered and anyone who knows someone with/used to have ED. This article is false, useless, and disrespectful. I don't understand how anyone would have the nerve to write or even think of something like this. But sadly. this world is full of foolish people who are too stubborn to open their minds and learn about what is right and what is not. to be honest, I feel sorry for this author because he doesn't know how much damage he is doing to others. He doesn't understand EDs, nor does he know about what constitutes a healthy relationship. Is having a relationship with someone only about sex and money? Is that what true love is? Is love only about getting what you want from the other person and not helping them or supporting them with what they need? There are so many wrong things about this article. The only beneficial thing that comes out of this article is that it shows us how one distorted thought and the misconceptions about ED can be harmful and even deadly to others. Be informed, and don't make the mistakes that this foolish author did. Right now, he may not understand why his article is inappropriate and hurtful. But when he meets someone with ED and he sees their struggles, he will regret that he ever wrote such an awful thing. Or maybe he won't ever understand why his article is wrong. Whatever the case is, I feel sorry for him. He is misinformed, not funny, and inappropriate. He needs help, and he needs to get educated before he writes such detrimental and foolish things.
'Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails' (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8).